Over the past 24 hours there have been more than 150 unauthorized attempts to log into this site from various IP addresses – pretty obviously all from one person using a VPN to change his IP address periodically. Gosh, I wonder who that might be?
I have a new hera, Mary Beard, who is a Professor at the University of Cambridge. She is a delightfully accomplished woman who is fearlessly outspoken against trolls and cyberstalkers, deftly pointing out their misogyny. A few good links:
- Mary Beard and Her ‘Battle Cry’ Against Internet Trolling
“The gloomiest way of describing the ancient world is it is misogyny from A to Z, really,” she said. But even in the present, she added, “we have never escaped a certain male cultural desire for women’s silence.”
- The Troll Slayer: A Cambridge classicist takes on her sexist detractors
“The more I’ve looked at the details of the threats and the insults that women are on the receiving end of, the more some of them seem to fit into the old patterns of prejudice and assumption that I have been talking about,” she said. “It doesn’t much matter what line of argument you take as a woman. If you venture into traditional male territory, the abuse comes anyway. It’s not what you say that prompts it—it’s the fact that you are saying it.” Such online interjections—” ‘Shut up you bitch’ is a fairly common refrain”—often contain threats of violence, a “predictable menu of rape, bombing, murder, and so forth.” She mildly reported one tweet that had been directed at her: “I’m going to cut off your head and rape it.”
- Mary Beard: I almost didn’t feel such generic, violent misogyny was about me: Professor Mary Beard tells of her shock at the horrific abuse she suffered from internet trolls after her Question Time appearance, and the support she’s had from colleagues and strangers alike
It all started when Beard appeared as a panellist on the BBC1 programme, filmed in Lincoln. In response to a question about whether the UK could cope with more immigration, she cited a recent report claiming that immigration had actually brought some benefits to the local area. A perfectly reasonable thing to say, or so you might have thought.
But the next day, commenters on the now closed Don’t Start Me Off website, which encouraged anonymous posters to vent their anger on targets chosen by the administrator, launched a vicious and sustained attack on Beard. The internet trolls posted dozens of horrifying sexual taunts, in language too offensive to reprint. The level of the abuse was so shocking that even those accustomed to the cut-and-thrust of online debate were appalled.
- How misogyny in Ancient Rome shaped modern cyberstalking
I missed this article when it came out in 2014—How the Law Is Standing Up to Cyberstalking. It’s very good, though, and talks about a landmark case: the first international cyberstalking conviction. Please take time to read it!
I’ve had a cyberstalker since I was 12 details a 14-year ongoing ordeal with a cyberstalker, along with well-researched information about the current state of affairs for victims. Things haven’t improved, unfortunately. The authorities refused to help her and she was left on her own, just as we have been.
What a great step forward in the fight against cyberstalking and bullying! Virginia’s new “Andi’s Law” fights anonymous harassers on the Internet Ms. Geloo had an advantage in that she IS a lawyer, of course, but the new law sets a precedent that could help move forward legislation in other states. I will be speaking to Georgia legislators to encourage them to follow Virginia’s lead, for sure!
This is the only article I’ve ever seen about online safety while job hunting. It’s particularly relevant right now, too!
Nowadays, nearly every one I know and their mama is looking for a job. Job searching used to mean scanning the classifieds in your local paper, but these days your job search probably means a lot of time spent on the Internet. And the Internet is a fabulous place to find the latest job listings from companies right next door or all the way around the world.
If a good portion of your day is spent refreshing the pages on Craigslist, you have probably seen some listings that seem too good to be true. Maybe your intuition has told you to be wary, but with more and more Americans running out of their unemployment benefits, you may just feel desperate enough to lower your guard and take the risk. Unfortunately, you don’t have to look too hard to find stories of crimes that began with contact through websites like Craigslist.
A forensic psychiatrist looks at stalkers.
Stalking: The Veiled Epidemic – Psychiatric Times
A new study published in the February issue of Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine has contradicted much of the common advice given by internet safety authorities. The behavior most likely to lead to victimization is not simply sharing personal information online. Communicating with strangers is far more dangerous, especially if the communication is sexual.
…the study found that talking with people only known online under certain conditions is associated with online interpersonal victimization, but sharing information is not.
“Aggressive behavior in the form of making rude or nasty comments or frequently embarrassing others, meeting people in multiple ways and talking about sex online with unknown people were significantly related to online interpersonal victimization,” they continue.
“With one in five youth who use the Internet reporting an unwanted interpersonal victimization in one year’s time, identifying effective Internet safety messages is an adolescent health issue of great importance,” the authors conclude.
When strange men started calling a Waterford woman’s house last summer, saying they had seen her profile on an adult Web site, her husband booted up his own computer to investigate.
The woman’s husband discovered someone had created a profile for her on several Internet sites and included her home and work phone numbers and high school yearbook picture, according to a court document.
Then he found out the person who posted the information was Pilar Stofega, a woman he dated eight years earlier and who, he told police, had harassed him after they broke up. (From Harassment Charged After ‘Vindictive’ Profiles Posted.)
I’m sure the (happily unnamed) couple who were harassed don’t feel fortunate right now, but at least the police in their area took the problem seriously and did something. Charges of second-degree harassment and breach of peace, plus a restraining order, may not be as satisfying as they might have hoped, but the woman is experiencing significant consequences. In addition, their names were not spread around in a web-searchable way (as far as I know) to cause potential problems later on.
How long will it take for this kind of criminal prosecution to be standard instead of newsworthy? Well, it has already taken eleven years too long for our family, and in Georgia, at least, nothing seems to have changed. According to people who have contacted me in the last six months, it is still nearly impossible to get any law enforcement official to take any action at all based on internet activity that isn’t obviously about child pornography, “grooming,” or the like.
Obviously, those aren’t unimportant crimes, but neither should they be the sole crimes police are willing to investigate.
It’s good that police are pursuing people that commit Internet crimes…
“More and more the Internet is used to victimize people—whether it’s to children or adults—people are finding ways to use it in a destructive manner,” she said.
I don’t even like MySpace. Why do I find myself defending the nasty thing? But here I am.
Four families have sued the popular social-networking site MySpace and its owner, News Corp., after their teenage daughters were solicited online and sexually abused by adults they met on the site, lawyers for the families said Thursday.
“In our view, MySpace waited entirely too long to attempt to institute meaningful security measures that effectively increase the safety of their underage users,” Arnold and Itkin lawyer Jason Itkin said in a statement.
“Blaming the families of abuse victims who were solicited online, as some have done, is a cynical excuse that ignores the fact that social networking sites can lead to heinous abuse by Internet predators,” said Adam Loewy of Barry & Loewey. “It is now clear that MySpace recognizes that serious security problems exist.”
Right. Where were these parents while their daughters were chatting away? How long did that go on before their daughters encountered the predators in person? Where where they when their daughters met these adults in person?
How likely is it that the parents were actually supervising their children’s internet use? Very unlikely, to be honest. I know that firsthand, unfortunately. I’ll lay money on the fact that they gave their kids computers just like they’d given them TVs, stuck them in their bedrooms, gave them unlimited (or nearly so) internet access, and let them go. Have fun, glad you aren’t bugging us!
Parenting is work. Supervising your children takes time and effort. Suerpvising your children’s internet access takes that and educating yourself and your kids, investing in technical tools, installing them, keeping them and your knowledge up to date, and having a good, trusting, open relationship with your children. Oh—did I forget to mention that first?
Your relationship with your children is the single most important factor in keeping them safe any where, any time. If you do not gain their trust and respect, they won’t have any reason to listen to anything you say, or to obey any guidelines you put in place. In fact, they’ll go to extra lengths to get around the roadblocks just because they’re there!
You have to protect your children. Not MySpace. Not AOL or Yahoo! or your ISP or the police or their schools or the phone company or “the government.” It’s all 100% up to you. You have all of the rights as far as determining what they can and cannot access, and you have all of the responsibility when you screw that up. Even if it results in them hooking up with sexual predators.
Am I saying that the families are guilty of the sexual abuse? No, not at all. That shouldn’t have happened to their daughters. But the families are guilty of not protecting their children, and these lawsuits are absolutely criminal in trying to shift that blame.
While I haven’t seen the suits, obviously, to me it looks way too much like the families are trying to make money off their children’s suffering. And that is almost as sick as the predators who attacked the children in the first place.